
Grieving in a bikini
Dear loved ones, I wasn’t going to write a blog today because I am not really in a very good mood or head space. My ex husband did indeed die yesterday afternoon. I was laying on my bed resting and I felt him leave this plane. His daughter messaged me a few moments later confirming his passing.
I didn’t think I would be sad or experience grief, but my body and heart crumbled. We were separated but not divorced, so I guess that means that now I am technically a widow.
I was thinking of having a very long title for this blog – something like “grieving in a bikini, sun tanning on the balcony with my daughter, music blasting, smoking weed and drinking beer”.
I didn’t smoke but my daughter did blow some of the fumes my way. As for the beer part, I had ¼ cup, a thimble full. The sun was hot, the music was loud and singable, and the company was sensational. What better way to grieve.
There will be no funeral now because of Covid-19, so, no decision for me to make as to whether I would attend or not. My ex always used to say that I would bring a boyfriend with me to his funeral. Or that I would find a boyfriend at his funeral and not just one, two or three. This always used to upset me that he would say such a thing, but now I do believe he would be right. I would bring a boyfriend, or I could find two or three. Was he a prophet?
Thank you for being here with me, I appreciate it very much. Much love. Hugs & Kisses, Summerhill Lane
Here is a song that I listened to over and over again when I was in the hospital for a month and was dying. I didn’t end up dying as you can plainly see, but I did lose my religion after that experience.
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=losing+my+religion+lyrics
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Much love to you
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Thank you darling and much love to you too ❤️
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… thought I had something profound to say, but I guess I was wrong. All the best to you, Summerhill.
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Profound or not, doesn’t matter. Thank you for commenting and much love to you.❤️
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Sorry for the loss..❤
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Thank you Kinge for your kind condolences ❤️
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Thank you so very much for the nomination. ❤️❤️❤️
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Hugs for you, dear Summerhill. 🤗
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Thank you for the hugs Gentleman Dave. Needed and appreciated. ❤️❤️
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I am sorry for your lost. I lost my father 21 January. No where could we find to have a memorial for him because of the coronavirus. I went to the nearest river, burn sage for him and I remember his face, his kindness and tried to find some kind of comfort. We must grief and I am glad your daughter is with you.
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Thank you for telling me about your father. I have a large candle burning which I lit immediately after getting word. I hope it lasts the 4 days. I also burned sage and prayed for his safe journey. My daughter put a food plate out for him by a scared fire spot but there was no fire.
Sending love❤️
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Now I understand better. I keep trying to think of anything to say but I can`t. I just want to give you a big hug!!
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I can feel your hug and it is the best. ❤️to you
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💙🌺Awful. I’m so sorry!
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Thank you sweetheart ❤️
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I’m so sorry for your loss. A time like this really does make you appreciate even the acts you may have once dreaded, like attending a funeral and saying goodbye to a loved one. I hope you and your daughter stay safe and strong throughout this ordeal.
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Thank you so very much for your condolences. I really appreciate it. Much love to you ❤️
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Every page has an end and there a new page begins, keep writing. ❤️
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Thank you for your comments. Yes so true, every page has an end followed by a new beginning. Love sent to you ❤️
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It must all be feeling so strange for you right now, Summerhill. I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you are being very kind to yourself, and holding yourself gently. I think it’s perfectly normal and okay to have such deep feelings for even those who are no longer in our lives, especially when they’ve moved on from this plane of existence.
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Thank you for your kindness. It is very strange that he is gone and that whole chapter (a long and painful one) has ended. It is surreal and I didn’t think I would grieve but my heart had other ideas. Much love ❤️
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I’m sorry for your loss. Grief is not a linear or finite process. I find myself navigating it all the time as it ebbs and flows. I related so much to the last paragraph. I almost died five times and have had several life or death surgeries. I too had a crisis of faith that is still with me. Ironically, I write about and teach the mystical aspects of my religion and the deeper interpretations. Mostly because it’s what I know well and the identity is still with me. The mystical interpretations help me relate. The literal is another story. Take great care of yourself and your daughter. ❤️ MW
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Thank you for your kindness and your words of wisdom. Much love to you ❤️
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Hopefully you found you. Grief releases a lot of things that ‘aren’t really us’ and below that the air is much clearer ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
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Thank you Mark for your comments and I appreciate what you have to say. The air indeed is clearer when all wounds are brought to the surface, looked at and forgiven and then let go of. Much love to you.
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Wise words dear lady, one’s that can only be reached by loving ourselves. May that grief and forgiveness clear that inner heart more ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
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So sorry, all losses affect us, in more ways than we realize. It is okay and healthy to grieve.
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Thank you very much Tiffany for your comments. I appreciate it very much.❤️
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Summerhill, You lost somebody that was important to you at one time and through your daughter, there is that forever connection. Peace be with you and do whatever brings you comfort–bikini, shots of whatever, sunshine, family, or a really crushing (even if deleted) blog post. Hope you do find a boyfriend or three at the funeral. 🙂
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Thank you darling for your comments. Very much appreciated. Sending you love❤️
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Reblogged this on By the Mighty Mumford and commented:
WR WILL GRIEVE WITH HER,. BEING KIND TO WIDOWS…IS A PARTT OF TRUE RELIGION. 😀
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Thank you Jonathan for reblogging my post grieving in a bikini. I very much appreciate the the kindness shown me. ❤️
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You are valued and your story is appreciated. Believe it! 🙂
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WHO DOES YOUR ARTWORK? 😀
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This is my artwork. Thank you for asking ❤️
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Very good—less distracting and your own effort. Except for a very few, most all of the pictures I use come from other people!
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Like!! I blog frequently and I really thank you for your content. The article has truly peaked my interest.
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