Mindless Sex is Dead
Dear loved ones,
I took a few days off from my blog this past weekend as I needed to think about something that might be worth saying. Also, I wanted to get back to my great love, painting and drawing. There was a young couple sitting in the park at a picnic table and they were facing each other and looking into each other’s eyes. Such a serious look. Maybe this was a meditation or tantric sex practice. I was afraid to bother them, but I did anyway and asked if I could take their photograph for a painting. There was some hesitation and then a none too happy, ‘yes okay’, from her. She didn’t smile. I made a sketch with the photo as a reference and I will include it here now. There is still a matter of painting it, but I have to sit with this drawing for awhile and let it percolate.
The title of this post is ‘Mindless Sex is Dead’, this reminder is for my reference so I do not just blab away about nothing and to bring myself back to the subject at hand. The last series of erotica published (Domination) was about mindless sex, in a sense, and I found it hard to write. There was no love, no caring, no higher purpose, no soulfulness, no longing, no benefit except to get off and to experience something never experienced before like an orgy or a gang bang. Maybe that is enough of a reason, but just having body parts fitting together (slapping in rhythm) is a mechanical thing.
As I was thinking about this subject a friend sent me a link to a book by Anais Nin, titled ‘Delta of Venus’. My friend must be psychic because the very thing I was thinking about Anais Nin wrote about. I am including here a quote from the book:
“You do not know what you are missing by your microscopic examination of sexual activity to the exclusion of aspects which are the fuel that ignites it. Intellectual, imaginative, romantic, emotional. This is what gives sex its surprising textures, its subtle transformations, its aphrodisiac elements. You are shrinking your world of sensations. You are withering it, starving it draining its blood.”
My attitude about sex has changed in the past several months, partly due to the fact that I am not getting any (ha ha), but mainly because I only really want to experience a sexual coming together with someone I truly love. Then the mindless part can take over and include others, but the base has to be solid and built on a deep soul bond. The passion needs to be there, the desire, the lust, the emotion, the heart pounding, the mind totally transfixed and mesmerized. It can not be just fucking for fucking’s sake.
Does that make any sense?
As I mentioned on this blog many times, I only started writing erotica to please and stimulate my divine masculine. It came very naturally and I was a bottomless pit of sensual stories and situations. I wrote for him. He was the thread that I weaved and built around.
Sex always starts in the mind. Love starts in an open heart.
Thank you for reading what I have written today. I know that I am not philosophical and cannot really do justice to this subject but I wanted to give it a go. I love you. Hugs & Kisses, Summerhill Lane xo
Yup, that does make sense 😉
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Thank you. Sending you lots of love.
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Your last line summed it well 🙂
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Good thoughts 💭
Tantric delights
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Thank you Mrv. for your comments. I hope you don’t mind the little edit. Sending you love.
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This is really, really wonderful. I have always felt this in your writing though…it never came across as mindless sex. I don’t know, maybe if someone only reads one post they may miss the larger context of your journey which includes a multitude of sensual, loving layers. I am all in on the mindset you shared here. I write about some kinky stuff (as you know, ha!) but it usually centers around an adventure within a sensual, loving relationship. Wonderful post! 💖
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Dear Michael, thank you for the very thoughtful comment. I appreciate it very much and you for saying it. I love your kinky and loving posts and I always learn something from you. Sending you lots of love and hugs too.
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I have experienced similar sentiments when it comes to writing the steamy stuff. It’s almost like if you’re not feeling it, it doesn’t read true on the page (or screen).
I have more but I’m all out of sorts tonight. Next time.
Good luck.
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Thank you very much for commenting and sharing your experience with writing the steamy stuff. Sorry you are out of sorts. Sending you an energetic hug.
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I love that quote and it really resonates with me. I like sex that engages every part of me. I don’t necessarily need to love the person, though that would add more. I think a strong connection is what I need. It makes everything better.
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Dear Violette, thank you for your comment. A strong connection makes everything better. Sending you lots of love.
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When Love Becomes Butterfly Wings More
Than Just A Warm Hand Passing Fancy
However Still THere Is Tantric
Meditation in Soul MaKinG
WHere Mind
Is Put Away
Always A Balance
As Above So Below..:)
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Beautiful poetry and so appropriate. Thank you for your comments. Sending you lots of love and hugs too.
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Thanks Dear i write
‘Free Verse Nude
Poetry’ too 6 Volumes
So Far FULLY iLLusTRaTeD
For The Meditative
Tantric Experience
Of Autotelic Flow
As It Is An Oldest
Most Traditional
Poetic And
Physical Way
For Sacred Holy
Meditation as Even
Muslim Sufi Poets
Will attest to lose
All Time, Distance,
Space, And Matter
Truly Achieving
Divine LoVE iN
Flow This Way
Escaping
Neo-Cortex
NoW iN Union
With
All that
Is (God) With
No Fear Open
HeART SPiRiT
SoUL All that’s
Left to Do
With All
Loving All
Once The
Fruits of
Below
Bloom
Into Love Above
Hehe it Would be
Impossible to
Explain this to
‘The Pope’
But i am
Quite Sure
You Have
Capacity
To ‘See’ ‘God’
This Way Freer too..:)
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When Romance Dies
Body Parts Dance Sing
What About Love Above Below..:)
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If I understand correctly, when Romance dies that is when the sex is just mechanical ? That saying ‘as above so below’ is true but it scares me a little because of its association with the Masonic Lodge.
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SMiLes I look
Within Now For
Knowing, Feeling,
Sensing Truth
iN Light
i study
Other Opinions
But i Find my
Own Not Unlike
Dance or Song
Sex Will Also Be
Divine Meditation
In Flow Agape Love
In Deed Romantic
Love Tends to be
Jealous
Agape
Love is
All Compersion
Joy For the Joy
Others Feel
The Way
Of an
Empath
Never
Selfish
Romance indeed
Often Turns
Into more
Hate
Than
Love as
At core
It’s about
Securing A
Mate and Sure
Propagation
Of Genes
Smiles as
We Grow
Older at
Best
We
Grow
Out
Of owning
Others For Truly
Love Never Owns
Or Demands Worship
Just another Virtue
Of God
Is Love
That i
Find impossible
To explain to Jealousy
And Ownership
For what
Will
Never
Be owned
Love when
God Really is
Only Giving
Sharing
With
Least
Harm
Smiles
My Friend Pleasure
Is okay and Part
Of Love when
Given Shared
Freely
With least
Harm i visit
Church each
Sunday but
The Buildings
Including Words
Of others never
Own
God
Free Love
Within me
Yes Naked and
Free of All Human
Cultural Clothes as
Even the Gospel
Of Thomas
Relates
In Verse 37..:)
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I have been coming to the same realizations about love as I have been on this journey. This is a better kind of love I feel for my divine masculine as there is no jealousy involved only caring about the other person and what is best for their life and soul.
Thank you for sharing this with me. Sending love.
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SMiLes You are Welcome
About Above So Below
The Nautilus
Creates A Shell
That Mirrors the
PHI Golden Spiral
Of The Milky Way
Same As A Sunflower
And Below Subatomic
Particles in Spiraling
Flow indeed Breath
Of Poetry
Flowing
Spiraling
On A Page
In Free Dance
And Song in
Words
How Beautiful
It is to exist Water
Waves Ocean Whole
in AToneMenT
YeS In UniSoN
This Way
As God
Breathes
Whole in
All that is Us
The Masonic Lodge
Repeats A Same Phrase
As Above So Below that
Indeed Is Also
Found originally
From the Gospel
Of Thomas
Secure
In the
Dead Sea
Scrolls before
Anyone had
The opportunity
To edit it but of
Course anyone with
Eyes and Ears to See
Will Find this Golden
Spiral PHI Pattern
In Flow
In All
Existence
We aRe aLL
Part of A Naked
Free Work of Art
God That We Only Hide
With Cultural Clothes
And Other Tools
We Make
That We
Become
As
Machines
Away From
Naked Breath
N A T U R E NoW
Of God Born
As
Is
Us
Breathing Free
Yes Below as Above
Within inside outside
And All Around Love..:)
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What a wonderful poetic truth. I appreciate you.
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Thanks it’s nice
To come across
Open Human
Souls Still
Seeking
Finding
Wisdom
In Love’s
Truth of Freedom
This is A nice Place
To Visit i appreciate you🕊😁
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Thank you very much. I also appreciate you ❤️
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Great quote by Anais Nin! 😉
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Isn’t it a wonderful quote. I was thinking the same thing but I could never in my life have written this as skillfully and with such grace. 😊💋❤
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She penned it so well! 🙂
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Very good, Summerhill. I’ve never had mindless sex (at least not with a partner, lol). Never had a one-night-stand, or even a one, two or three-month stand. Sex, for me, has always required an emotional investment. The more that I invested, the better the sex and all the aspects of the relationship were.
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Thank you Manfred for your comments on this post. I don’t think mindless sex will be a thing of the past, but maybe with the way our world is unfolding it may induce to put some thought into where and with whom you expend your valuable energy. You have been on the right track all along. Sending you lots of love ❤️
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This is brilliant… wonderful.. all of it… but also your art again, it’s an amazing drawing, and took guts to ask that couple and I love that you did that and made this from it, it’s truly amazing. You are doing great things. Amazing to see you butterfly like this… but anyone could expect it… you’re truly divine. ❤️❤️❤️
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I hardly know how to respond to your generousness. I thank you 🙏 and send you so much love ❤️❤️❤️
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It’s all you gal… thank you, likewise… 🤗💖❤️🌻 and hugs. :))))
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Brilliant read!! x
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Beautiful quote! I have that book. I also sometimes read the extraordinary letters she wrote with Henry Miller. I understand you perfectly 🙂
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Thank you beautiful poet. I am glad that my writing was at least understandable. Sending you lots of love ❤️❤️❤️
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